Can Successful People Be Truly Happy?

You know the book Catch-22? Even if you’ve never read the book, I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase. A catch-22 is something that seems impossible to do. Like, in order to get rid of your anxiety, you have to stop worrying. But worrying is why you’re anxious, so it’s impossible to get rid of it!

Well, sometimes I feel like being happy and being successful is a catch-22.

 

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That Dale Carnegie was a smart guy. This makes a lot of sense, right? Just because you’re successful, doesn’t mean you’re happy, and vice versa. But it’s REALLY HARD to work for what you want WHILE being happy with what you have at the SAME time! It seems almost impossible.

I am so dedicated to this business and my team. I spend time everyday developing my team, answering questions, building new relationships. And don’t get me wrong, I love it! But it does take a lot of my time and energy.

I have big goals. I want to achieve the next level of success in Beachbody, and I’m working hard to do that. But sometimes I look around and I realize that I’m farther away from those goals than I thought.

And then I get really down. I worry that I’m doing something wrong, or that I’m not doing enough. I see all the things that I’ve accomplished so far, but they don’t seem like much. I compare myself to other people who have already achieved the goals I’m working towards. I think, “what does she know that I don’t?” “What’s he doing that I’m not doing?” I worry that if I AM happy with what I have, then I’ll stop pushing forward. I’ll get complacent.

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I am working towards what I want, but I’m not happy with what I’ve got.

 

Successful people are always hustling. I’ve met successful people who are busy, but very happy. And I’ve also met successful people who are miserable. So what’s the secret? How do I become happy with what I have while still hustling for my goals? It’s not easy, and it’s something that I’m always working on.

Here are a few things that I’ve found that have really helped me:

1) Gratitude.  Everyday, I list at least 3 things that I’m grateful for. Even on my worst days, I have things to appreciate about my life. I have a house with heat, a great husband, an awesome family. Being grateful is something that I have to practice. It’s just like working out – if you don’t do it everyday, you won’t see the gains you want. But practicing it daily has helped me keep things in perspective. I have so many wonderful things in my life to appreciate!

2) Tracking progress.  Keeping track of where I’ve been really helps me to appreciate how far I’ve come. I’m not going to stop here, but I can appreciate that I’m miles farther along than I was a year ago. This works for my business as well as my own personal fitness. My “after” photos from a year ago look like my “before” photos now. If I forget to track my progress, it’s easy to lose sight of how much I’ve accomplished. This is also something I practice everyday!

3) Checking in with people close to me.  Sometimes it’s hard to be grateful. On bad days, I try to talk to someone close to me. Someone who’s been with me for a few years and has seen the changes in my life. They can remind me about things that I’m forgetting. They can help me add to that list of things to be grateful for. And they can help me keep things in perspective. I’m lucky to have a few of these awesome people in my life!

I KNOW that success and happiness DON’T have to be a catch-22. I hope you’ll feel the same way. And if you need someone to remind you how AWESOME you are and how far you’ve come, drop me a line! (fitcoachashley@gmail.com)

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